To Embrace Being Single
Relationships definitely have their benefits and if it’s a 2.4 stable family environment you’re looking for then please continue looking but, in the meantime, are you enjoying your single life?
Have you asked yourself what the purpose of an intimate relationship is? Has society led you to believe you are somehow less of a person if you haven’t found someone to share your life with? And let’s consider what that means – to share your life. YOUR life.
What if we looked at this differently and found a way to embrace singledom? To learn to love our independence and freedom? What if we could stick our middle finger up at society and find fulfilment for ourselves? What if your married friends looked at your chosen lifestyle with envy? I once had a married friend describe me as a maverick when I turned up to a wedding reception unaccompanied with a zest for laughing and dancing the night away. If you’re unsure, a maverick can be defined as ‘someone who refuses to play by the rules. He/she isn’t scared to cross the line of conformity but their unorthodox tactics get results!’ (Urban dictionary, 2003)
I found my passion for the single life on my first ever girls holiday in Benidorm at the age of 41 and couldn’t believe it had taken me so long to see what had always been there as an enormously fulfilling way of living. The sense of freedom that comes from embracing single life cannot be underestimated and it’s astounding that we can have this freedom and resent and neglect it because we’ve been taught we aren’t whole without a partner.
Living life independently brings freedom of choice. Living YOUR life the way YOU want to live it without compromise is empowering, exciting, and tremendously freeing, and builds internal strength and resilience. Achieving success that you’ve actively sought alone is purely yours to own and offers a much higher sense of accomplishment. Nurture this part of you.
The world is full of other single people looking for friendship and solidarity with whom we can develop deeply valuable connections with in order to receive the support, love, and closeness we need as human beings.
Make sure what you’re looking for in a relationship isn’t something you should first find within yourself. If you are truly happy in your own company, and thrive on your freedom and independence, any relationship you then choose to enter into will likely only enhance other elements of your life you prefer to share.
And until then, if ever, feel free to do whatever you want, whenever you want, wherever you want, with whomever you want! Live YOUR life and enjoy it!
