Helping you understand yourself, and your relationships
Welcome to Clarendon Counselling
Relationships can bring connection, support and happiness, but they can also leave us feeling anxious, misunderstood or unsure of ourselves.
You might find yourself overthinking conversations, worrying that you’ve upset someone, struggling to say what you need, or taking too much responsibility for how other people feel.
Sometimes these patterns are connected to the way we speak to ourselves.
Your inner critic can shape your relationships
If your inner critic is strong, you may be quick to blame yourself when something feels wrong. You might question whether you’re being too sensitive, worry about rejection, seek reassurance, avoid conflict or find criticism particularly difficult to hear. Over time, this can affect how safe, confident and connected you feel in your relationships.
Get to know your inner critic
Understanding that critical inner voice can be an important first step towards changing how you respond to yourself - and to others.
Get to know your Inner Critic with this free Reflection Guide.
Why do these patterns keep repeating?
The ways we relate to other people often develop through our earlier experiences. Keeping quiet, putting others first, staying alert to someone else’s mood or becoming very independent may once have helped us feel safer or more accepted. But patterns that once protected us can later leave us feeling stuck, anxious, resentful or disconnected.
Counselling can help you understand what’s happening
Therapy gives you space to explore these patterns without judgement. Together, we can look at what happens when you feel criticised, rejected, overwhelmed or misunderstood, and help you find different ways of responding.
The aim isn’t to create perfect relationships. It’s to help you feel more able to express your needs, trust your own feelings, set boundaries and build healthier relationships with yourself and the people who matter to you.
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Have your voice heard. Talk through your challenges in a non-judgemental space.
See our “Do I Need Counselling?” article.
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Be supported to practically work through your thoughts, feelings and behaviours with a view to creating change going forward.
See our “Distorted Thinking Styles” article.
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Find common ground with the support of a trained couples counsellor and learn new tools to strengthen your relationship.
See our “How Do I Know If My Relationship is Healthy?” article.
Read what other have to say about these services here.
“Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect”.
Alan Cohen
